Lead with respect
A clear, polite first message gets answered. Introduce yourself, say what you're looking for in general terms, and respect the provider's stated boundaries and hard limits.
Don't negotiate payment for in-person services in messages — it's against our rules and it's the fastest way to get a non-reply.
Respect boundaries
Hard limits are non-negotiable. Read them. Pushing past a stated limit is grounds for a block and a report.
Screening requests are normal in this industry and exist for safety. If a provider asks for consent-based screening, that's a sign of professionalism, not suspicion.